In life, we find ourselves faced with cross roads, and forks in the road time and time again. We know we can only take one even if we kid ourselves into thinking some day we will be back to take the other. Each fork, each diversion, each path leads us further and further to who we are to ultimately become, yet … who hasn’t stopped for a moment and pondered “What if I had gone the other way?”
Recently, a friend of mine is being faced with a big life decision for herself. One path offers familiar comfort and adventuring opportunity in the last few remaining years of great freedom (College days) with good company old and new. The other, a new experience, secluded from the familiar, but set in an exciting scenario that promises great experiences and potential towards the future.
Each with its own merits, rewards, and opportunity; each greatly different and diverges in opposite directions.
She reached out to me, and asked, “If you were here, which would you choose?”
How does one instruct another life decision or even offer advice? Personally, myself, I’m just stumbling through the dark and finding neat stuff along the way. How could I offer any insight to how to approach major life decisions and ultimately choosing paths?
A simple flip of the coin?
No, it’s never that simple. Is it?
I’d like to now share with you one of my favorite poems by a great man named Robert Frost:
TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I--
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Frost knew all too well this very struggle.
There will never be a correct answer for any one individual. As well, there will never be any way to know for certain where the other path would have lead, for we cannot ever travel it.
We must be confident that all of our decisions are correct and the best we could have made, no matter how we come to them. Let the historians’ debate morality.
Understand that each is unique and offers its own adventure, rewards, trials and tribulations.
Well that’s all fine and dandy, at least now I feel good about tough life decisions.
BUT I still don’t know what to choose!
For this, I have finally developed an answer that I am confident in.
When faced with a fork in the road and you’ve weighed and balanced them; looked down each as far as you can see; pondered, pondered, and pondered somewhere just which one to take and are stuck.
Just simply, flip a coin. Before the coin lands, you’ll already know which one you want it to be and if you still don’t, well chance has decided for you and you may as well leap.